I called up one of my closest friends one night and as soon as she picked up the phone, I told her, “It’s time. Come chop my hair off.”
That was the moment I decided to go full-on natural. I was tired of what I was doing to my hair. My hair was tired of what I was doing to my hair. After using chemical and heat straightening methods it had some serious damage to it.
I was in denial for a while. I, like so many other people in this world, valued my hair too much and wanted to keep it. But what I didn’t realize is that keeping those frazzled ends weren’t helping me, it was hurting me. So after three weeks of bad hair days and friends grilling me about cutting it, I finally did.
For African American women the big chop is huge. It’s the step you take when you want to go natural and get rid of the straightened portions of your hair. To me it felt like a rite of passage.
Now that I am natural, it’s so much fun to play with my hair. I love the curls and the coily shape my strands take. I’m learning how to use the right conditioners and other products that will help keep my ‘fro moisturized and soft. I’m thoroughly embracing the fact that my hair is not like other people’s, and I can’t wait to see what I can do with it.
As a person just starting the journey of finding my inner happiness and mastering the art of letting go of fears, I am so glad I made this decision for myself. On the inside, I have found this girl who is daring and bold. She is unafraid to love herself for who she is. She is also unafraid to share her true self with others and love them just as much. She is me.
Do not be afraid to explore to find your true self. Let me tell you, it’s exhilarating.